For example, when we grow up with a mother who is a supermodel and who is constantly asked to train and be thin, and we eat like bad guys, we only see this image of beauty, and we start to make a deal with ourselves, that others who don`t look like that are not beautiful. What is the impact on others? Do we make big jokes and snub all those who do not enter our “meeting box” with a good appearance? Our perspective, our opinions and our actions towards others are deeply reflected in the agreements we have made since such a young age, without realizing it. So now reverse the play – if the person on the other end of the cruel fat jokes takes nothing personally, the words that come out of a human being`s mouth mean nothing. It is their own projection of their reality. But if we swallow the emotional garbage of others, we appropriate it. Nothing that others do is because of you. It`s a bold statement, but think about it. If we stop being responsible for the actions of others, it will radically change our world. Every situation is personal for that person. We have already talked about the fact that we are taught from an early age about our agreements on life and the rules by which we must live.
And these agreements that we say to ourselves influence all our thoughts and opinions. I knew I had just had some kind of virus coming down, but I have four children and I am a single mother, and the option to slow down was not in my repertoire. I can`t be sick. But my body refused to cooperate, and I had no choice but to stop. In addition to demhur`s book and book, there is also an eBook, a four-colour picture book, a card game and an online course.  The fourth agreement allows readers to have a better understanding of the progress made in achieving their goals in life. This agreement involves the integration of the first three agreements into daily life and the exploitation of its own potential.  It is a matter of doing the best that can be managed individually, which varies from the different situations and circumstances that the individual may encounter.
Ruiz believes that if you judge yourself and do your best at all times, you will be able to avoid remorse.  By integrating the first three chords and doing the best in all facets of life, the individual will be able to lead a life without grief or self-awareness.  The book is based on a series of spiritual beliefs held by Toltec`s elderly to help readers transform their lives into a new experience of freedom, happiness and love.  According to the author, everything a man does is based on agreements he has made with himself, with others, with God and with life itself.  In these agreements, we can tell ourselves who they are, how to behave, what is possible and what is impossible.  Some agreements that create individuals may not cause problems, but there are certain arrangements that come from a place of fear and have the power to deplete emotional energy and reduce a person`s self-esteem.  The book states that these self-limiting agreements cause unnecessary suffering.  Ruiz also believes that to find personal joy, one must get rid of socially imposed and fear-based agreements that can unconsciously influence the individual`s behaviour and thinking.  Another fundamental premise of the book suggests that much of the suffering is created and that most people have the ability to transform themselves and the negative thoughts they have about the situations in their lives.
 The author identifies the sources of unhappiness in life and proposes four beneficial agreements that can be concluded with oneself to improve their general state of well-being.